How to Become a Woman Comfortable in Her Own Skin
If you’re reading this, you are probably not feeling all that comfortable in your own skin. The bitter-sweet news is: you’re not alone. Millions of women all over the world don’t feel good in their bodies, and the blame is mostly on the diet and fashion industry. But don’t get discouraged. The fact that you don’t feel great now doesn’t mean you never will. In fact, here are some ways you can change the way you think and start loving yourself more right now.
Clear your feed
We’re all glued to Instagram and Facebook, which are both simply highlight reels of everyone’s lives. You rarely get to see people’s real lives there, but those are exactly the moments you are supposed to be looking for. Unfollow all accounts that you look at purely because you wish that you had a body like theirs. You never will, because their bodies are theirs and your body is yours. Instead of wishing it looked like someone else’s, it’s time to start working on falling in love with your own body. So get rid of the #fitspo and #thinspo pictures, because you don’t need that in your life. Instead, follow real people with real bodies and stories. The ones that will inspire you from the inside out, not the other way around. You’ll be surprised by how big of a difference it would make to just stop seeing those pictures every time you open your phone.
Treat your body like your best friend
There is a beautiful quote from Nayyirah Waheed: “And I said to my body, softly, ‘I want to be your friend.’ It took a long breath, and replied: ‘I’ve been waiting my whole life for this’.” This is so painfully true, because it shows that we’re taught since we’re little that we shouldn’t love our bodies, but rather always try to fix them. There is nothing wrong with your body and you need to start treating it with the love it deserves. Give yourself a cup of warm tea and snuggle into a cozy sofa. Have a long bath and apply all the lotion in the world. Love your body and treat it well. If it’s too hard to do that, try imagining it’s not a part of you, but a separate entity and fall in love with it for what it is when you take yourself out of the equation.
Appreciate your body for what it can do
Your body is an amazing, powerful thing, and you need to notice all the things that it’s capable of doing. And that’s exactly what exercise is. It’s not supposed to be about punishing yourself for something you ate, and it’s not just a way to get a different measurement of your body. It’s a celebration of the things it can do and what it can provide for you. Inspire yourself by grabbing some cool New Balance sneakers and some cute workout clothes, and go explore the amazing possibilities of what you can do. Enjoy the strain and the sweat, embrace the progress you are making, and take your body to the limits.
Learn to be comfortable
A great way to get comfortable with your body is to spend some peaceful time with yourself, focusing only on your breathing and being aware of every part of your body. Sounds familiar? It should, because that’s what yoga is. It is available to literally anyone and if you’re struggling with being comfortable in your own skin – you should definitely give it a try. Begin by signing up for a class or following an instructional video. Think deeply about how it feels to be in your own body, when you are aware of every part of it inside and out.
Find out what makes you feel good
For some people, going out with greasy hair can ruin their whole day. For others, it’s wearing a certain type of shoes. But we all also have things that make us feel amazing. When your lipstick is just right, or when you’re wearing a power outfit. Rely on these things to make you feel good while you are working on becoming comfortable with the rest of you. Whether it’s reading books, drinking coffee, or wearing something nice, rely on these small things to make you feel like a million bucks.
Do yourself a favor and start loving yourself, because your body is going to be with you for the rest of your life. You might as well get comfortable with it and focus on living your life.