Forgiving yourself

Today, well let’s just say I had a real rough day & personally I would like to share it with all of you.

Have you ever heard the saying you get further with honey then vinegar? Well it’s true! However, today I was filled with vinegar.

I have been so frustrated with a few nagging major issues that I, yes even I, “The Life Coach” & “The Intuitive Healer” I allowed my emotions to get the best of me & I chose to stand up for myself in a very vocal manner.

I spoke my truth but it was not well received. See when your dealing with others that are doing their job, well that’s just it, it’s their job, it’s not effecting them. They are following the company rules & or policies. Really at the end of the day, your stuck with your situation & they go home to their lives & you are stuck with you.

Well, today that just didn’t fly with me. I decided as a woman, a single mom, to say how I felt & I reminded & decided to hold people accountable & make them keep there word. With that being said, I bet your reading this & thinking to yourself, well good for her but for the rest of the day & evening, I felt worse!

I know better, I keep telling myself that. I really do know better! I am human, I reacted, & became frustrated just like anyone else. Still, at the end of the day, I did not feel better.

Those people are not going to care any more than they already didn’t care in the first place & they’re at their homes not even remotely thinking about how this effected me or my family, & I am disappointed with myself for reacting because now all I did was make myself look bad & piss them off. Even when I’m right about 95% of the situation. Reacting poorly or over reacting will not help the scenario.

I do have integrity so I am passionate on standing up for whats right & doing the right thing. Here is another saying, “Two wrongs do not make a right” & this my friends is very true.

So we are human, we do react poorly at times & sitting around beating yourself up for not being calm & collective doesn’t make anything better. It’s okay to know shat you want & do not want. It’s okay to stand up for yourself. It’s not okay to freak out(lol) but it is okay to forgive yourself when we sometimes act poorly. Hey, in all honesty don’t we forgive others? So why not forgive ourselves? Good questions right?! Well, we humans are harder on ourselves than anyone else is going to be. That self punishing needs to stop. It’s unhealthy & I know we have all been in this position before.

So, learn from it. Take note of how you can react in a more receptive way.

1. If you are too heated take a family member or a friend to help aid as a buffer.

2. Make a list of what it is you want to change, fix, or want but be very clear & honest. This is for you remember that. Write down exactly what you want or need to help you.

3. When dealing with others be prepared to compromise. Maybe together you can find a solution.

4. When you are the client & pay for something you have a voice but use it wisely. You are more likely to be heard when you remain in control of your emotions.

At the end of the day, stay true to you, keep it classy, & remember it’s okay to stand up for yourself or what you believe in, just do it in a kind manner as best as you can because you do have to live & love yourself.
Again, forgive & move forward. We all have the power within ourselves to make positive changes.

Amen! Light & Love