Resolving Past Conflicts
If you have ever made a mistake in your life, then you are definitely 100% human. We sometimes do things that we regret, we say things to people that we shouldn’t say, and we cause relationships and friendships to run haywire. But just because we have made such mistakes in our lives, doesn’t mean we have ruined ourselves. It means that we have gained a learning experience and have given ourselves a chance to grow and better ourselves.
Most mistake cannot be undone, therefore, you can never go back in the past and fix it. However, you can take certain steps at changing the way you see your past. A great way to do this is to look back on the things that you regret the most, and let go of all your regretting. You can do this by realizing that if you had never done such regretful things, you wouldn’t be where you are today, you would be a different person. These regretful things happened in your life because they were meant to teach you a lesson or two. You have only learned more about yourself and about how you handle certain situations. This learning process will continue through the rest of your life, because you’re bound to make more mistakes along the way. Learning from your past rather than mourning the past allows you to not only become a better version of yourself, but also a more mature version of yourself.
In some cases, you may have wronged at least one person in the past. Maybe this person was a friend, or a partner, or just an acquaintance. Whoever they were, you said something to them that you shouldn’t have said or you treated them in a disrespectful manner, and you could never go back and stop it from happening. But that doesn’t mean that you should remain hopeless. I just recently made a growing decision to send out apologetic messages to a few people whom I hurt in the past. Sure, they are very late apologies, but it still doesn’t change the meaning. I have grown so much these past several years, and I’ve learned that the person I was in the past was a completely different person than my current self. By sending out these messages, I felt like a huge weight was lifted. Even though I hadn’t exactly thought about these people in years, it still made me feel like I took a huge step in bettering myself. All three people responded, and were very grateful for my apologetic words. It’s the greatest feeling in the world giving someone else the kindness that they so rightfully deserve.
All people have some level of forgiveness, whether it be large or small. We are able to relate to each other’s mistakes because we have all been there before. We tend to appreciate those people who swallow their pride and fess up to doing something wrong. You have to look within yourself and see your inner strength. Your inner strength stems from the ability to admit to your faults and mistakes, and you will only grow stronger from doing so. Growing up isn’t just a physical process, it’s a mental and emotional one as well. To grow up means to take a lesson from everything you experience in life, and put those lessons to use. It’s truly amazing how much you can teach yourself simply by the things you go through in life.
The reason why you cannot live a regretful life is because you will spend too much time looking back and never looking forward. You have to understand that it’s completely okay to slip up once in awhile because you will be able to eventually redeem yourself. You just have to take life one step at a time and know that you will always get back up even when you take your hardest fall.
