The Truth About Revenge

People tend to live with this misconceived notion about revenge, bitterness, and jealousy: the notion that they will somehow come out on top by using “revenge” or being hateful towards other people. That’s not reality and you will never come out on top.

Life is all about what you surround yourself with. If you want to be successful, then you should surround yourself with likeminded people. Misery is no exception, and it loves company. If you are negative, then you attract negativity into your life.

This is why it is extremely important to never allow people or anger to rule your life. Negativity can manipulate your reality and it most certainly can manipulate you. It is imperative that we do not hold onto anger, bitterness or jealousy.

If you do good to others, then good things will happen to you. You deserve great things to happen to you and you deserve to be happy. Everyday we have choices, so choose happiness. Learn to let things go and move on. Life is not about having the last laugh or the last word; it’s about being the first to say: “I’m moving on.”

Just imagine if all the feelings we had were visible to people on the outside. Think about it, would you really be proud to call yourself– Bitter? Jealous? Spiteful? I bet not. If you wouldn’t be comfortable with carrying that poison on the outside, then why would you put that poison on the inside? Always be conscious about what you put into your body and mind, and most importantly, your heart.

Listen, bullies are cowards. Revenge, bitterness, jealousy, and hatefulness are cowardly. It takes maturity and wisdom to move on. It’s easy to be bitter, but forgiveness takes growth. Unfortunately, some people do not want to grow.

I’m sure there are people who do not like me. The point is this, if there are some, I am not aware. I don’t have time for such negativity in my life. Most importantly, I don’t speak negative words towards anyone, and I have no grudges. Therefore, if someone speaks poorly of me… well, it’s really about them. It has nothing to do with me. It says a lot about someone when they’re constantly being hateful towards someone who never speaks of them. That’s called an attack.

You shouldn’t associate with people who are always speaking so poorly of others because they will speak poorly of you, as well. Those are negative people. Sometimes it’s hard, because the people we love can be negative. We can be negative. We aren’t perfect. However, it’s about realizing that and then changing your attitude. We are all going to have bad days and that’s okay. We’re human. Just don’t allow that day to turn into a month.

There are going to be people who are smart and beautiful. However, remember that doesn’t make you any less beautiful; and it doesn’t make you more beautiful to be a jealous person. Be kind. That’s the secret to beauty. Be kind and understand your worth. Your worth isn’t determined by how pretty the next girl is, or how successful the next guy is.

Most importantly, never allow jealousy to alter your reality. For example: You see a pretty girl at the mall, so you talk trash about her. What has this done to you? Are proud to wear the words you spoke of her on your chest? No, I don’t think so. So just don’t do it! You’re so much better than that, we all are so much better than that.  Be Better, not Bitter.

You do not want to wake up alone 30 years from now, and wonder: What have I spent my life doing. I encourage you to take charge of your life and your movement. It’s a NEW day! Bitterness, Jealousy, Spite all go against the word of God. You should never do the devil’s job for him. Send him to the unemployment line and release evil feelings. Even if you don’t believe in a higher power, is this really the work you want to be doing? Is this really how you want to spend your time? Ask yourself that.

Happiness is our right. If you chose to live your life growing, learning, and being a better you, then there is no time to worry about the past or the people who live in it. Always keep your head up, and your eyes focused on tomorrow and the opportunity it will bring.

When your focus is down here, how can you ever expect to be happy? This is why you never win with being nasty, jealous, bitter, revengeful, etc. Your focus is not only in the past but it’s entirely at the bottom. While everyone else’s is growing, you remain idol.

I encourage everyone to break away from bitterness. Choose happiness and let go. Life is about letting go. We cannot control everything but that’s what makes us stronger. We aren’t perfect but we can’t allow our mistakes or other’s mistakes to control our lives. Our worth isn’t determined by other’s attributes but our own.

I hope one day we can all realize that we are so much more than what we possess on the outside. Remember that there is power in just being you. Love yourself because you’re all you’ve got. Waste not another moment living in the past or bitterness, and dare yourself to GROW.

 We learn to be resilient and not revengeful.