Love & Trust

This blog was requested by a male friend of mine & I hope I do not to disappoint him.

In relationships, specifically romantic ones, the most important thing to have is trust.

We can love someone and not trust them. We can trust someone & not be in love with them.

In a relationship, if one of those things go….eventually the relationship slips away.

I personally just got out of a relationship and honestly I do not trust him. Loving this man has never been my problem. I do NOT think he has cheated & that has not been my trust issue. When someone lies over the smallest thing then they can lie over anything. Eventually the lies get bigger, the problems that were once small become enormous & it’s a huge amount of energy zapping & waste of time actually! Dating in today’s world is very difficult. People are not honest a 100 % in the beginning. They put there best foot foreword, when we all know that we are human & being yourself no matter what others like or think, is your true authentic self & that’s the only thing that you should display. To me that is always your best foot. When I date, I give it 90 days. Lol, my girlfriends & I call it the 90 day rule & then true colors start to fly!

When we do fall for that someone we forgive, hope, make excuses for them.I’m not saying give up. I’m saying pay attention & if the bad out ways the good, then get out sooner than later. Know what you don’t want & most importantly know what you want!

I am a very strong independent woman & I know most of you who are reading this are or are on your way to evolving into the best you everyday. So, staying in the unhealthy relationship just because I fell in love, well that just will not work because I cannot trust on the things he says. Our relationship has been slipping away, and is now over.

If someone, even a friend is not honest, then these unhealthy emotions come into our lives having a very negative effect on us. We then can experience betrayal, assumption, begin to question ourselves. Please surround yourself with trust worthy & loving people. You know who they are. It’s like cleaning out your closest. keep the friends & relationships that make you happy, enlighten you, support you, and encourage you & get rid of the rest that do not serve your highest greater good.